A while back I put this RT on Twitter. Don’t you think all three might be true? Yeah, me too.
Did you ever get the “evil eye” in school and wonder why? Or nasty rumors were being spread about you that weren’t true? Still, a lot of people believed them?
It really hurt. Besides, it made you furious because you couldn’t figure out why.
What about the guy on the job that rubs you the wrong way with his smart mouth and nasty attitude. He gets along fine with everyone else, but directs those jabs right at you.
And don’t even get me started on those in the family that use you for a whippin’ post.
You rack your brain and still can’t figure out what you did to trigger the fury. Maybe you didn’t do anything. The problem could be just you … being you.
There are so many reasons someone else could want to be you. They are uptight, you are easygoing. They are unsure of themselves, you are confident. And the list goes on.
Everyone on the planet must have “sticking points” inside. You know, areas that we would like to improve.
Only some people dwell on their shortcomings to the point of obsession. Common sense tells me that this can create self-loathing. “I hate myself because…” And the list goes on.
The third one, you are a threat; to me this one is dangerous. It can ruin lives, tear people apart.
Let’s say, one family member lies to another about something you said. You have had problems with this person in the past, but things have been going good lately. This is tough. All you can do is ask them not to judge you on the past, to trust that it’s not true.
Or, say everything is going great at work until the boss calls you into his office one day. Seems a couple of clients have called to complain lately. You get along great with people, and try to explain who might be behind the problem. This only makes you seem catty, spiteful, and the list goes on.
So, what can you do?
In a word … nothing.
Unless, you want to change who you are. Be something you’re not. Talking to the other person won’t change who they are.
Maybe one day that person will learn that hating you isn’t the answer. Happiness comes from within. It’s a choice. And it won’t come without…
Being true to yourself.
May Your Glass Always Be Half Full
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