December 3, 2008 by Maxi
Remember the argument you had with your friend/lover and there was no way to settle it? You both walked away feeling kinda bad. Thing is, you knew without a doubt that you were right.
So, the next time there was a conversation you waited for the opening … and wham … you brought it up again. Just couldn’t stand to leave it alone. Had to prove that you were right. Well, is it settled? Or did it get out-of-hand? Hurt the relationship?
Then we have this situation: You have never had words but the first time you do … wow! Your friend/lover goes off on you, doesn’t give you a chance to say a word and disappears. Next thing you hear it’s nothing like what happened, plus she/he lies about you.
Well, your friends will know better and those who don’t know you will find out. Is this person really your friend? Do you want to go back for more?
Now we have e-mail, IM, blogs, etc. Oh my, the written word. Things have a way of sounding so different on paper(so to speak), not the way we intended. Especially if there is a language barrier.
Words tend to lose their meaning when translated from one language to another. They also lose their harshness. When a person from another country says something mean about us the words sound more hateful to our ears, less cruel to them. No matter if we are American, Latino, Filipino, etc.
Here is what it all comes down to: When we have words with someone we always want to win, we have to be right. It’s human nature. That’s why some of us will go back and try again; either to show the other person they misunderstood, or to prove them wrong. Yet, it never works, only makes things worse.
In the end there are two choices — being right or having peace — you choose.
May Your Glass Always Be Half Full